During my adolescent years I was accustomed to being in the vicinity of my own race. This only conditioned me to think that when it comes to finding a partner that you tend to be comfortable dating your own race. But as I gotten older I found myself more prone to welcoming dating another race (white, hispanic, asian etc). I have had the opportunity to experience dating multiple races. Now for me I feel comfortable dating a person in my race. On the contrary I see that interracial dating is not becoming an issue.
As shown in the article posted below, it shows that according to U.S. Census reports, interracial marriages more than doubled between 1980 and 1995. Black/White marriages increased an estimated 96% overall, with marriages between of Black women and White men increasing 171%. Blacks with other races increased a whopping 124% during the same period. So with this whopping increase in statistics where is the problem if any. I tell you where... There is no problem.
People are adamant about putting race aside in order to maintain a successful relationship. There are steps that you take in order to assist in your cultural diversity. Interracial couples tend to focus on their similarities rather than their differences. So now I ask myself; what was the problem dating outside of your race? And I could never find an answer because one did not exist. I am now at an age that I feel comfortable dating someone outside my race and if we share common bonds and can build together and have a strong relationship then I am fine with that.
Now since there are some dinosaurs out there that do not accept interracial dating this part is for you. There can be some interracial dating issue such as acceptance, which culture to follow, friends, background, etc. But we must face it, we now live in a multi-cultural society and that there is a possibility that you will encounter another race. This does not mean that you have to particularly date them; it only means that you have the dynamic opportunity to see your differences and focus on your similarities.
As you also see there are multiple dating sites out there that help you welcome interracial dating. So if there are millions and millions of people that are hopping on this bandwagon then we can all say that there is really no problem and that society is welcoming this behavior.
Here are some sites below that you may enjoy as it assisted me in this blog:
New generation doesn't blink at interracial relationships -
http://www.usatoday.com/news/nation/2006-02-07-colorblind_x.htm
Interracial Relations survey - http://www.askheartbeat.com
Interracial Relationships: Two viewpoints -
http://www.fazeteen.com/summer2000/interracial.htm
Interracial dating sites:
http://www.whitewomenblackmen.com/
http://allinterracialdating.com/
Signing off,
Truly yours,
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Mr. Impact "the online alter-ego"
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This is a really interesting post. You state some fantastic U.S. Census data, and "as shown in the article below." But which article do you speak of? I can't tell which of the references has the census data you list.
Since it sounds like you have dated interracially, can you tell us some of the specific cultural issues you have come across and how you and your dates handled it? I think this would make a nice bookend entry to this post here...
This is a Great post and I was kind of hoping that you would eventually post on this topic. This is a very controversial topic for the generations before us and can also cause controversy in todays society.
I actually have experienced this over this past holiday break. I went back to Missouri to visit my family on the holiday, when we went to my Dad's Girlfriend's family dinner there was an interacial couple that showed up. Not only was the Girl white and the Guy black, but they were also 18 and 25 with a kid. This caused a lot of conflict at dinner and my dad's soon-to-be father in-law was unaccepting to the togetherness of these two.
Do you think it is bad for an person to date someone that much younger than them?
I think that would be another interesting topic to read about.
Corey this is such a great post. Growing up in an all white community there wasn't alot of diversity going on. But the thing is most of them were extremely racist. I have dated mostly interracially, most because it is what I know. When I started forming friends with more people of my own race they looked down on me and said I was betraying my culture. It did bother me but I never cared. I remember the looks though, walking down the street and all over sudden someone gives you a glare of dissaproval or whispers something that you can clear hear. I never let it bother me but it did hurt. In our generation we have been taught race doesn't matter and it's true it doesn't. But what about our own race hating us because we choose to be with someone who isn't one of us.
Dood,
I’m glad that I read your post. Interracial dating can be a volatile topic. You addressed part of post to the “dinosaurs out there that do not accept interracial dating this part is for you.” I was hoping that you would define or qualify that characterization a little further. Interracial dating is up to the individual and I personally have no problem with it. However during my bachelor years (of which there were many) it was out of the question for me, not because of any issues with race but due to a natural affinity for black females. Does that qualify me as a dinosaur? I have 5 daughters and two sons. My oldest son is married to a white female. My wife and I think she’s just the sweetest person and a good choice for our son. My daughter in-law’s father will have nothing to do with our son because of his race and he refused to attend their wedding (his loss). My youngest daughter will only date white males. We don’t think very much of the oxygen thieves that she’s introduced us to so far (they’re only redeeming value is breathing) because they were all low life scum sucking bottom dwellers. It would be a huge improvement if she just brought home a crab. My other five children will not date outside of their race but that is strictly their choice.
It would be very interesting to read about thoughts and opinions from people in and outside of interracial relationships. For example: White and black female comments on black males dating white females, or white males dating black females, etc. Have you considered doing any interviews or surveys?
I enjoyed reading your blog. It hit close to home. I am in an interracial/intercultural relationship myself; I am Mexican American and my girlfriend, English, Irish, Dutch, French, and Scottish.
You made an interesting point when you mentioned that people focus on their similarities, not their differences. That is one of the most important things you can do in a relationship that shares two or more cultures. Of course we benefit from our similarities, and more so, embrace our differences. Both give us things to talk about, share…and yes, even “discuss” (not argue) as she likes to put it!
An interesting site that I came across was www.lovingday.org. It celebrates the day interracial marriages became legal in the U.S., June 12th 1968. The site is user-friendly and very informative.
I really enjoyed reading your post. It could have to do with the fact that I am a product of an interracial realtionship (my mom is white and my dad is black) and I am married to a white man. I know that my husbands father wasnt too sure when we first go together. He never came out and said it, but it is obvious how differently his dad's side of the family treats me as opposed to my other sister-in-law. I think it has to do with the fact that they are all from small towns and are maybe a little small minded. It sucks because I always feel like I have to prove myself to them. As if being a full time mom and student wasn't hard enough, they sometimes make me feel like that is not enough. It used to bother me, but not anymore. I've learned that their are just small-minded people out there and who cares.
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