Myspace or my little world

I am back once again on “The Encore Presentation”. I have been battling about a subject for quite sometime. So now I have become settled on bashing individuals who turn MySpace into their own little controllable world. So let me explain:

In the continuous growth of the use of the internet, we have an enormous amount of people who uses MySpace and various other dating sites. People have their motives for using this website. Whether it may be, networking, music, getting in touch with old friends, making new ones, or even dating. Pick you flavor. Now you have these pretentious individuals who have the audacity to put their entire life on the internet and wonder when they get the responses that they receive. Now do not get me wrong this is in no way discouraging your interaction. You have individuals who are so self-centered that you can only view them when they “accept” you as a friend. In addition, people go on this site day by day and alter their status and their moods. This in particular I find funny because it becomes a daily cry for attention. I mean really on Tuesday you are “having the time of your life with you and your sweetheart” and then on Wednesday evening you have a sad face and saying “Someone should change the way you think about men”. Yes, as you see I have a MySpace site, and I think it is great when its intentions are acted on accordingly. We can see when you are lying to the entire internet community and when you are crying for attention. This is done by pictures, blogs, messages, etc.

I think people who specialize in this behavior do not have control in their own lives. So this site and other dating sites allow them to have control with whom they encounter. You are allowed to reject friend request, respond to messages at your leisure, and post provocative pictures privately. Yeah really like it is a privilege to be in your presence. Please spare me the bull. Do not try to paint something that it is not. Also do not allow this site to consume you to the point that you are starting to believe in this product that you post. We have all seen pictures, notes and etc of people who are not whom they seem. This is frustrating and unrealistic. Maybe because I am frustrated with individuals who put out false products and expect the truth to visit their doorstep. You have these self-centered individuals who put status messages up so people can focus on them rather the issue at hand. Now do not get me wrong we as a community can be genuinely sensitive to your issue and sometime we are really nonchalant with our approach. I just want people to understand the magnitude of dating site, or networking sites such as Blackplanet, MySpace, Facebook, Tagged etc. These sites have an intended purpose and that is to meet, not to fulfill your desire for attention.

Signing off,

Truly yours,

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Mr. Encore "so do you want more"

Why don't you just leave?

Well, Well, Well. I am back again with my first post for 2008. I figure that I keep the concepts of relationships on the radar. Well mainly because someone has to let these people know what is out there and I feel compelled to fix it. Hey all I can do is try. I have had people ask me of when I was going to post my next blog. Well here it is. I appreciate the love for my page. Hope you enjoy.

I had an issue that was posed to me the other day, where as someone was inquiring about the fact of why they stay in relationships. Well I feel compelled to respond to that issue. Although, I do not consider myself an expert on relationships by far, I do believe that I have enough experience to shed some light on the situation. Now I look at it like this, some people stay in relationships for certain reasons, i.e. financially (keeping your household in order financially, kids, payments etc.), we call this "the cheaper to keep her" motto, emotionally (they are tied to you so much that is all you know, and you feel that is all you may deserve and this person has emotional control over you), psychologically (whereas this person has an effect on you to the point whereas you may feel compelled to not leave, although you know that you need to) and etc. There is also another thought called security. This is where the mate feels secure about at least having someone around. This feeling of being involved brings assurance. Well as I see it, there is no reason for anyone to stay around in something that is not healthy for them mentally, physically, emotionally and any other they other "ly’s" that you want to use (they all fit). Because guess what, (and to some people this is a shocker) you can do bad all by yourself. There is no one on this earth and I mean no one that is that highly praise for you to destroy yourself over.

Now let’s take a deeper look at this. What are you staying around for? I can tell you that you do not have an answer. I have seen people be miserable and say to me “I am doing it for the kids”, or “I’m waiting for him/her to come around”. We have all heard the same song before or we have read the same book (chose your analogies wisely). At the end of the day you are going to be miserable and your mate will feel the same way as well. You have to know your self-worth and search deep inside to know what you want and most importantly what you don’t want. This becomes important when you are dealing with your mate, because your needs must be met. If you are not happy with the one you are with, its very simple to just leave. Now I understand that people cannot just get up and leave your relationship with what you have built. But if your mate does not respect and honor what has been built, then you do not have any foundation for your relationship to stand on.

For all of the people that go to your friends crying, pleading, and complaining about your relationship; I say to you that you must do something about it. No one will help you get out of a relationship. This must be accomplished by you and only you. Your friends can support you through this process but I am here to tell you that your friends can become cynical as well. We have heard repeated declarations of people claiming to leave a relationship and this does not get accomplished for days, months or maybe years. While you are stuck in this relationship, you may come across an individual who fits the traits that you desire. The only problem arise when your heart, mind, body and soul is still with your previous mate. You are not open to let all of those good things that you desire take place. This is undeserving to yourself and that individual. You and only you know what you deserve and you have the resources to control it. No one has control over you unless you give it to them. Once they have control over you, it is had to get this back. I can only empathize with individuals who go through this and encourage them to realize what they are worth and to release that unwanted pressure that this brings. Once the smoke is clear and the dust has settled you will know who is there for you and what is important to you the most, your happiness.

Please realize that I have tried to be objective as much as possible. Granted I will see responses that tends to paint me as a shallow and cynical person. All this blog is intended for is understanding and input. I value where it comes from.

To show you all that I am not the only one that feels this way, I have researched some of these sites that has substantiated my blog.

Why some stay in a bad relationship

Addictive relationships

Signing off,
Truly yours,


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Mr. Encore "so do you want more"